Gen 38

1 At that time, Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hirah. 2 There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He married her and made love to her;

3 she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, who was named Er.

4 She conceived again and gave birth to a son and named him Onan.

5 She gave birth to still another son and named him Shelah. It was at Kezib that she gave birth to him.

6 Judah got a wife for Er, his firstborn, and her name was Tamar.  7 But Er, Judah's firstborn, was wicked in the LORD's sight; so the LORD put him to death. 8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother's wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the LORD's sight; so the LORD put him to death also.

11 Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father's household until my son Shelah grows up.” For he thought, “He may die too, just like his brothers.” So Tamar went to live in her father's household. 12 After a long time Judah's wife, the daughter of Shua, died. When Judah had recovered from his grief, he went up to Timnah, to the men who were shearing his sheep, and his friend Hirah the Adullamite went with him.

13 When Tamar was told, “Your father-in-law is on his way to Timnah to shear his sheep,” 14 she took off her widow's clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. For she saw that, though Shelah had now grown up, she had not been given to him as his wife.

15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, “Come now, let me sleep with you.” “And what will you give me to sleep with you?” she asked. 17 “I'll send you a young goat from my flock,” he said. “Will you give me something as a pledge until you send it?” she asked. 18 He said, “What pledge should I give you?” “Your seal and its cord, and the staff in your hand,” she answered. So he gave them to her and slept with her, and she became pregnant by him.

19 After she left, she took off her veil and put on her widow's clothes again. 20 Meanwhile Judah sent the young goat by his friend the Adullamite in order to get his pledge back from the woman, but he did not find her. 21 He asked the men who lived there, “Where is the shrine prostitute who was beside the road at Enaim?” “There hasn't been any shrine prostitute here,” they said. 22 So he went back to Judah and said, “I didn't find her. Besides, the men who lived there said, 'There hasn't been any shrine prostitute here'.”

23Then Judah said, “Let her keep what she has, or we will become a laughingstock. After all, I did send her this young goat, but you didn't find her.” 24 About three months later Judah was told, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar is guilty of prostitution, and as a result she is now pregnant.” Judah said, “Bring her out and have her burned to death!”

25 As she was being brought out, she sent a message to her father-in-law. “I am pregnant by the man who owns these,” she said. And she added, “See if you recognize whose seal and cord and staff these are.”

26 Judah recognized them and said, “She is more righteous than I, since I wouldn't give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not sleep with her again.

27 When the time came for her to give birth, there were twin boys in her womb. 28 As she was giving birth, one of them put out his hand; so the midwife took a scarlet thread and tied it on his wrist and said, “This one came out first.” 29 But when he drew back his hand, his brother came out, and she said, “So this is how you have broken out!” And he was named Perez. 30 Then his brother, who had the scarlet thread on his wrist, came out. And he was named Zerah.

46 WELL BEHAVED WOMEN RARELY MAKE SCRIPTURE

Judah breaks away from his family and marries. He has sons. His eldest son, Er, marries Tamar, a woman selected by his father.  God smites Er for ERring.  Not sure what he did but it was wicked.  He had no kids. The custom in that time was for brothers to step up and impregnate sister-in-laws in this situation. So glad that is no longer a thing.  Judah tells the next son Onon to do the deed. On and on and on Onon goes. Oops – rabbit holed myself there for a second.  Onon is more than happy to get it on-on  with Tamar (yes, I will move on on from this joke -starting now), but he refuses to leave his seed. God thought that was wicked and smites Onon. Jacob did not send his third son in for the task, so Tamar takes matters into her own hands by acting like a prostitute.  A bit impressed by her persistence and super grossed out about the method.    

Jacob will never be someone with whom I can connect. Here he tries to cheat Tamar. Then he runs out and sleeps with what he thought was a shrine prostitute. Classy.  The shrine sex was used as worship of shrine gods.  So, this smacks of idol worship on top of just sleezy.  

On top of this, Jacob is willing to give his seed freely to a prostitute, but not to his line.   And, to top it off, he left his seal behind as surety. Seals were important for identity and had legal significance. That was plain stupid.

Then knowing he slept with a whore just a few months back, he condemns Tamar to death for being a prostitute. He is a hypocrite. But Tamar calls him out and he realizes the whole mess was his own fault. Tamar has twins- just like daddy. I like that one is named Perez. We hear about him later (I think it is somewhere in Ruth as being a forefather to King David and that means also Jesus).  

I have to admit a soft spot for Tamar who made things happen. It would be better to seek God for justice, of course. But God included both the honorable and the dishonorable in Jesus's line. Jesus sleeps in a stable and is visited by kings. He is the savior of the high and low. His linage is part of that dichotomy.  Jesus's line had many questionable people in it.  God uses the unexpected to do the unexpected.